Frequently Asked Questions; Typical Demands
How do I get in touch with the Priest outside of the Mass times?
It is always wise to telephone or email the priest for an appointment. His personal number (mobile) is on the website, as is his email. Recall, the parish does not have any secretary, receptionist, or other workers, so kindly just leave your name and number if you cannot get through immediately.
Pastor’s email: email@example.com Pastor’s mobile number: 079 013-8985
Please, please….be on time for your appointment. If you are late, it is probable that the priest will not be able to see you due to other duties. Make a realistic appointment and keep it.
It is not wise to “walk in” to the priest’s office or residence; he will usually be attending to duties and will not be able to see you. Instead, make an appointment, and you will receive his full attention.
The office of the parish priest is located at the south end of the Jesuit Center, 43 Al-Razi Street, Jabal Hussein. It has its own outside staircase. When you arrive for your appointment, call the priest by mobile phone or on the intercom-phone at the door of the Center, and he will advise you about the exact way to his office.
How can I get a copy of my Record of Sacraments?
All records of the sacraments you receive are kept at the church where the sacrament took place.Sacred Heart English-Language Parish is a “Personal” parish, and all of its sacramental activities take place in the regular or “territorial” parishes. Your records are at the “territorial” parish. Contacts of various churches used by the English-Language Parish are located on the website and here is the list of churches :
JABAL HUSSEIN CHURCH
St. John Baptiste de LaSalle Church
PO Box 926126
11110 Jabal Hussein, Amman, Jordan
Phone: + 962 (06) 566-1757
St. Mary of Nazareth
PO Box 851083
Phone: + 962 (06) 592-0740
Is there another Sacred Heart Parish in Jordan or Amman?
Yes. And there is some confusion when persons overseas look for records. The other Sacred Heart Parish is also a Latin (Roman) Catholic parish; it is a regular parish of the Vicariate of Amman, and services are in Arabic. It is very busy and large, and many records for the regular Catholic people are kept there. Your record may be there, especially if you are Jordanian by birth: Sacred Heart of Jesus, P.O. BOX 448, 1953 Tilaa-el-Ali, Amman; Tel +962 (06) 551-8907.
Also, there is a smaller “Sacred Heart” parish in Na’our. If you are Jordanian by birth, your record could be at this church: Latin Convent, Post Office Box 315, 11710 Na’our, JORDAN. Tel: +962 6 572-7017. Last, the Chaldean (Iraqi) community in Jordan has a Vicariate named “Sacred Heart.” The Chaldean Patriarchal Vicariate, Jabal Al-Hussein – Deir Yaseen Street 10, Amman, JORDAN. Tel: +962 6 568-8431. Website: www.chaldeanjordan.org
I need a record for a visa or passport which has my name spelled differently or a different date of birth. When can I come and get a record from the Church which will help me?
Probably never. If there is a real mistake on your church record, you can bring a “correct” civil record and your church record can be similarly adjusted. It is a sad state of affairs that a number of people ask the church to be involved in their attempts at forgery.
My baby has not been baptized, and I have to have it done. I have announced the baptism for next Friday after the Mass. You have to do this as a favor, Father.
It won’t be done by any sensible priest. Parents of very young children,who attend their church on a very regular basis, will have no problem scheduling the baptism after consultation with the leadership of their church. The actual Baptism is scheduled a few times per year.
Parents often are not “practicing” Catholics anymore. To have your children baptized at Sacred Heart, you must establish yourself as a regular member in your church, you must attend the Seminar for parents, and then receive the appointment for Baptism, which is done a few times per year.
I am the godmother for a new baby, and it’s time for the baby to be baptized. It is scheduled for next Friday after Mass. Thank you, Father.
The parent(s) of the baby have to be regular members of the church; your duty is to help the parent(s) become regular Catholics again. We can discuss the Baptism after this takes place.
What documents do I need to have to get a baby Baptized?
First, only the parent(s) can ask for Baptism, and the parent(s) must be regular members who attend the church each week.
Most parents will also need to attend the Seminar for Baptism. The leadership of the church have persons who can offer these seminars. Then, about 6 weeks ahead of the scheduled Baptism, you will need to gather and present the following materials:
1. A Birth Certificate or other civil record with the accurate name of the child, the date of birth, mother’s name (And, in some societies, also the father’s name), and the place of residence at the time of birth.
2. The current address of the child and mother.
3. The names of two practicing Catholics who have agreed to be the Godparents for the child; one must be present for the Baptism and should also attend the Seminar. Only two names are allowed ; substitutes, or proxies, or “ honorary” godparents are not recognized by the Catholic Church.
Can I have a private Baptism for my child at the “Baptism Site?”
Baptism is not private. It is a public religious moment with witnesses.The Baptisms of Sacred Heart can take place at the Baptism Site, but the leadership and the Pastor have to discuss this matter for the sake of the entire parish, not for private benefit or desire.
I am getting Married, and my priest “back home” demands a letter from a priest which says I am not married in Jordan, I head home in two days, so I want the letter today; thank you, Father.
If you are in regular attendance at our Mass(es), the priest will know or recognize you and you can make an appointment by phone or email to see him at his office.If you are not in regular attendance, nothing can be done by the priest to help you in this matter.
I am getting Married, but there are complications. My spouse is abroad, and one of us has been married before. Can the church help?
If you or your spouse is Catholic, it is your right to be married in Christ and to celebrate the Sacrament of Matrimony. With distance, you and your spouse can prepare separately with the help of the parish nearest to each of you, but it will take more time, so please approach the parishes at least 9 months ahead of any planned wedding. If there is a previous marriage, there may be help toward your planned marriage. Normally, the local bishop and his “tribunal” will seek to investigate the previous union. This can take a lot of time, but it is a “pastoral” service in aid of your proposed marriage.It is very wise to have a few discussions with your pastor about these matters long ahead of your proposed marriage.
My child is probably ready for First Communion. What do I need to do?
At Sacred Heart, children regularly make this next step in their Christian Initiation. Some of our churches have full programs on site; others will have to arrange a preparation. In either case, see the leadership of your regular congregation. The preparation usually begins in September each year with the celebration in May.
How do I go about getting Confirmation?
At Sacred Heart, young men and women can prepare for Confirmation by contacting the leadership of their congregation. Somewhere in the parish, but not at each church, there is a suitable program. The leadership will know. The formation process for Confirmation takes about a year.
I need money for emergency travel. What will my church do for me?
Sacred Heart has no bank account or assets. The biggest resource you have will be the good friends and associates who are in the church with you. As with any friend, you can be confident of respect for your need, and you may find help.
I need to get my child into Catholic School. Will the Parish help me?
Catholic Schools are entirely administered by the Principal and Staff. You need to find out the requirements for admission to the school. The Parish has no “say” in how schools are run.
How Can I Get the Priest to offer the Mass for my special intentions (e.g. Anniversary of Death, Birthday, Special Need)?
The Priest can offer a Mass. You have to write down the particulars, put it in an envelope, and ask the priest if a Mass can be said; do this AFTER the Mass you attend or make an appointment to visit the priest in his office.He will usually agree (although recall that some priests are not free to accept these intentions).
Please note that the Mass will be said at some date in the calendar of the priest when he is able. A practice of “announcing” or “publishing”such intentions appears in some places, but is not possible at Sacred Heart.
Also, there is a practice of handing bits of paper with names, etc., to the priest at any time.This is not appropriate. Use the envelope, ask, and you will be successful.
Should I offer money to the Priest if he says a Mass for my intentions?
Masses — and all spiritual ministries — are not “for sale.”
However, recall that the Priest is offering a spiritual ministry for your intentions.You may offer a ministry to your priest for his well-being.Money is appropriate which supplements the priest’s salary (JOD 360 per month) you can put your “offering” directly into the envelope. The customary offering varies by place. The basic offering usually is an amount which would allow your priest to get lunch at a modest restaurant.
At "Home," the priest attends all family and social events like Birthdays, Baptism parties, Anniversaries, Special Blessings, Benevolent Societies,School and Social Functions, etc.How can I make sure that the priest does this for me and my situation?
In many of our “Home” communities, there is also a surplus of priests who are “of the culture” of the community. In Jordan we do not enjoy this surplus, the priest is usually not “of your culture,” and virtually everyone of our parish has come from somewhere other than Jordan. He will not replicate your cultural or ethnic experience of the clergy “at home.” Please do not expect this.
Your priest will attend to the preaching of the Gospel carefully, to the proper celebration of the sacraments with and for you, to the good order of the parish, and he will cooperate with lay-led ministries for the poor, for the young, for the excluded. He will help you become a full disciple of Jesus Christ for your culture, both here in Jordan and when you return home. He will help the parish to stay in good communion with the Catholic experience. He will be a resource for spirituality, but will usually not know or be able to deliver your traditional devotions and practices; he will, however, support you when you take responsibility for such.
Since the Parish Priest is an American, he must know all the people at the USA Embassy. I am sure he will be able to get me a USA visa very fast and without much of the trouble of application, payment, and lining up.
This is a common assumption and it is completely mistaken. The priest is not an agent for the USA Embassy or for any government, nor does he know the Ambassador or anyone there. Like all applicants, you can work toward a visa by carefully following the instructions, by telling the truth at all times in the process, and by patient waiting. Any attempts at deception, fraud, bribery, or any attempt to gain “favors” are both illegal and immoral.
I have to get married in order to live freely and well. I know that the priest will find me a suitable spouse, especially one living in Europe or the USA; what will the priest do to get me a (husband / wife)?
Sadly, many in Jordan have not married and remain, by law, in their father’s house. Many foreign workers desire a marriage to solve a number of difficult problems. Arranged marriages are very normal also. However, the priest cannot undertake any such activity; he can assist only persons who are approaching their marriage freely and in a sacramental way. The ancient tasks of matchmaking and bride-selling belong to another time, place, and religious practice, not to contemporary Catholicism.